While a few gay men still follow one of the more regrettable fads from the nineties, many of us did not follow it even then. Pardon my blasphemy, but some of us think that being a gay man has something to do with being sexually attracted to men, including the things that make men look like men and not women or children. After all, it's not as though all of those Carl Hardwick* calendars went begging.
*Do not do a Web search for that name from work.**
**Unless of course you work at a leather bar.