Fabulous queer dating tip #4: Don't take "No," or even "Absolutely not," for an answer.

If you want him, then by definition, he wants you, too. If he didn't, he wouldn't be standing in the same bar/walking down the same side of the street/living in the same county, now, would he be? If he takes out a restraining order or even greets you at his front door with a shotgun, he's just playing hard to get.